I have nothing to say today, but don’t think for a moment that will stop me from saying it. I mean, people with nothing to say say things all the time. In fact, you can’t seem to shut them up. The harder you try, the more they apparently have to say. They keep saying nothing, over and over again, sometimes for weeks, months, even years. It’s amazing how much people can say without really saying much of anything. And how much listening can happen as a result. Listening that seems like it’s important, which falsely, and even destructively, affirms the one saying nothing, but in the end it doesn’t take anyone anywhere. Why? Because listening to nothing is just that. But I do admire the effort, and the confidence, and the passion, in a strange way, of those who can say so little with so much.
But I will say this:
Peace to you.
© LW Publishing 2011
I understand this by experience. This is wisdom.
ReplyDeleteSo ... what are you trying to say??
ReplyDeleteI believe when we listen very carefully not only to what others say but also to what they do not say it can provide the listener a great deal of insight into reason for the empty chatter.
ReplyDeleteA variety of reasons I have discovered include emptiness, low self-esteem, difficulty prioritizing, feeling lonely, bored, feeling lack of purpose, along with a lack of differing levels of trust within a relationship.
I believe when we listen very carefully not only to what others say but also to what they do not say it can provide the listener a great deal of insight into reason for the empty chatter.
Regardless, of the reason in my interactions with others spending time with another person I have discovered that if a person is consistently having mindless chatter it is either due to a lack of trusting relationship, a basic lack of insight, or misplaced priorities.
When I discover this mindless chatter is happening on a consistent basis with a person I consider a friend then I will ask questions that will allow me to get to know their personal philosophy, ideology, beliefs, and history.
Tanya
I find myself on the receiving end nothing talk quite often. Patience is the key.
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